When it comes to facing disability you need to have a smile on your face. Disability is never fun, and no one wants to be disabled, but the quality of your life depends on smiling daily!
I know, sounds crazy right! Especially if you are hurting everyday and all you feel inside is pain, whether that is physical or emotional.
I am here to say that you can have a brighter life. I might not be able to take the pain away, but hopefully I can help you see the world a little differently!Subscribe Today
I know that me being a medical mystery I suffered for a long time without a smile. I was actually so depressed that I thought about taking my life more than once.
The thoughts that seemed to continually run through my head was, “I am worthless. I have no purpose on this earth!”
Defeat was my middle name and I welcomed it with open arms.
I knew that something in my life had to change. That I could not just sit here and wait for life to come to me. I had to go out and grab life by the horns.
So here are some tips that I have for everyone who is facing disability and wants to become happier!
Facing disability | Learn That Life Is More Then Sitting In Your House
Here is something that I really struggled with for many years when I started facing disability. I would shut myself inside my house and not want to come out.
I didn’t want anyone to see me hurting, or to feel pity for me, or see me walk my “funny walk.” No, I wanted to stay right in my house and never deal with anybody.
This can actually be pretty detrimental to your happiness if you are disabled. You might “feel” safe in your house, but you are just hurting yourself.
Here are some reasons why staying in your house can be detrimental to your happiness when facing disability.
When you don’t get out of the house you are missing out on important vitamins! Yes, that big bright yellow thing in the sky called a sun contains vitamins that are absorbed through our skin.
More specifically, Vitamin D! Vitamin D is a vitamin that affects receptors in the brain. More specifically the Monoamines and Serotoin in the brain.
Antidepressant medication is comprised of chemicals that help raise Monoamines in your brain. Introducing Vitamin D into the blood stream can also raise these levels in your brain.
While I am no doctor, I can tell you that for me personally, just 15 minutes of sunshine can really brighten my day emotionally. Even if I am just standing on my back porch!
Your perception of yourself begins to diminish. This is a big one cause if you don’t feel good about yourself, you are going to be depressed.
By sitting around the house all day you begin to feel disconnected from the world. Like the world just simply forgot about you and your existence!
But the world has not forgotten about you, and in fact is waiting for you. I am not saying that everyone that you meet or interact with is going to understand you and your pain.
But what I have found is a smile from a stranger can go a long way to improving my mood.
The underestimated value of fresh air! No joke. Studies have proven that populations that live in green areas suffer less from depression.
Now I know that not everyone lives in evergreen states like Oregon, but even getting outside and going for a stroll, (walking, wheelchair, walker, ect..) you are going to get some fresh air.
You don’t even have to walk or go anywhere. Just sitting outside for a little while can improve your emotional state.
There was a study done on the Netherlands population on how people who live in “green space” and how the air quality actually reduced the number of people who were depressed.
While we might not all live in a “green space” I bet the air quality outside of your house is a little better then inside.
Facing Disability | Be Proud Of Who You Are
This is big considering that when you become disabled you feel like you are less of a person and more of a sack of bones consuming space.
This is not true and your outlook on yourself is vital to your happiness. Now, I am not talking about being prideful, but what I am saying is that you need to have acceptance!
Accept the things that you can not change. I can not change the fact that I am disabled, I can not change the fact that I will not be able to workout, or play sports like I want to.
But I can change how I spend my days. I can go out and start talking more with people. I can go and seek others who are disabled and might understand me better.
When facing disability, one of the worst things to do is isolate yourself. You have to get out in the world and get your mind off your own misery.
And I am not going to lie, the world can be a cold place to a person who is disabled. But it is the world that we live in.
Another truth that people won’t tell you is that those people who look down on us have problems of their own in their lives.
They are not the picture perfect image of the Brady Bunch, or that person who just has everything together. In fact, anyone who says they are normal I am leery.
Because there is no such thing as a normal person. Everyone has problems and difficulties in life! They might not be physical, but the have problems none the less.
And even if they were picture perfect and they looked down on you SO WHAT! You are a great person and it does not matter what people think of you. That was a hard lesson for me to learn.
This is part of the acceptance process that we all must go through. It is part of overcoming our disability and finding a life outside of our pain and misery.
I can not care if someone is laughing at me because I am walking funny, or how people stare when I have really bad tremors.
You have to accept that fact in your life when facing disability. Then you have to grow from it! That is the key to being happy and disabled.
Taking that disability you have and making it apart of you. As if when you are describing your personality you say,
“I have a great sense of humor, I am very kind, I walk funny, I have tremors, I don’t like cats, I love pizza, ect…”
By making your disability more of your personality your personal view of yourself will change. You will realize that this is just me, just as much as I like pizza.
This is how you begin changing your life when facing disability. It is not easy, but the more accepting of your disability the brighter your days ahead will be.
You Are Not Alone When Facing Disability
You are not alone when facing your disability. You are not alone when you feel depressed, or overwhelmed by what the world has left you as.
You are not alone, and by reaching out you will find people who are going through the same thing you are. The best advice I can give you for happiness when facing disability is, don’ face it alone!